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I bought this book at the airport on the way to a weeks break with my 4 yr old son. It got me thinking even before I got through the first chapter. As a single parent from finding out I was 4 months pregnant, Im sure like all parents (mum's & dad's) this book was profound. Although the story focuses on a mum and her daughters it was relevant for me and my son and I have often wandered what I would want him to know. Just the good bits? or wounds and all! Strangley it also helped me end a difficult relationship, helping me realise he wasnt the one. To explain, I thought he would be someone I would want at my bedside in my last moments and being a stepdad to my son, playing a pivitol role. He wasnt! I couldnt stop thinking about the story and messages throughout the book and insisted my sisters read it! Because the 3 of us are dedicated mums and it helped me 'diagnose' some feelings towards my mum, failed relationships and of course my son. I could relate to all the daughters at some point in my life. My Beautiful Big Sister in Australia was recently diagnosed with advanced Grade 3 breast cancer. Devasting and all-consuming and I have never felt so helpless in my life. This morning she asked me to send her this book, she wants to read it. Perhaps for some insight, hope or ideas on her letter to her twin girls? I know it wont get to that but it is something she has asked for during this difficult journey, its something I am happy to do and know she will get alot from this wonderfully written, thought provoking story. One which we can relate to even if we are not faced with similar challenges or if we are! I know it will help my brave sister in some way and I am grateful this book was written otherwise I would not be able to offer my sister this platform found in this sad, personal, openly written book. God Bless my sister and all of us who, at some point face the possibility of having to dig through 'our memory boxes' and write a letter to our children.
Posted on 25.04.09 by
bridget24
I read the book and loved it - it made me cry and made me think about my mum and how much she did for me and my 3 sisters. I lost my mum in August 2006, 4 weeks after she was diagnosed with cancer. It's funny but before then illness hadnt really touched my life and since, i constantly hear about people i care for being affected by cancer or losing the people they love the most. My mum was the most wonderful person in the world. She took on 3 jobs and studied at university and was still there to care for us 4 girls. I probably never appreciated her at the time, or if i did i never told her how much i did. I remember telling her how much i loved her when she was ill and unconscious but she never woke to say it back. Its really hard to describe the void in my life now, i still keep her number in my mobile, i cant bear to remove it, its crazy but its like i can pretend she is still here. I used to call her every day and whenever i get good news like my new job she is the first person i want to tell.........it breaks my heart that i cant do that any more. I dont really speak to my sisters about her as we all get upset and i am no longer in contact with my father so i do feel alone at times. It is a hard feeling to describe, its like a heavy feeling in your heart all the time and it gets difficult to breathe when i think about her - i have a huge lump in my throat typing this. I know she is no longer in pain and it's truly selfish of me but i want her back. I dont understand how a body can just give up and not exist any more. It pains me to think im only 29 and she will miss so many milestones; special birthdays, weddings, grand children. Life is so unfair and sometimes i wake up and think it hasnt happened......then i realise and the pain comes back, it never goes away and i dont think it ever will. Its too hard to think about the future knowing she isnt going to be a part of it. What i do know is that i am so proud to call myself her daughter
Posted on 25.04.09 by
lilyscouse
I received this book as a christmas present from my older sister and at first couldn't read it as it seemed too sad, after losing my mum when I was 22, I'm now 41, it was still too much to read about it. I never told her how much she meant to me and how much I loved her and see now what a wonderful funny loving and generous mum she was. I still miss her everyday, just to talk to, but I've brought my daughters (2) up just as I know she would have wanted me to, they never got to meet her, but I know she's still watching over them and I'm sure she would be proud to see them growing into two beautiful girls. I'm so proud of my girls and hope that people reading this who still have their mums go and tell them right now how much they love them.
Posted on 25.04.09 by
doddsy68
this book in incredible. i'd finished reading it in two days, i just couldnt put it down. i cannot remember the amount of times i cried, it was a lovely book to read. it makes you relise how much you should appreciate people & not just your mother. but now i see my mum in a whole different light and im not going to waste one mintute of our time together. i love you mum xx
Posted on 25.04.09 by
Daniella-oxo
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