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What would you like to tell your daughter? What do you wish you could tell – or have told – your mother before it's too late? What do your friendships mean to you? Is there a particular friend who's brought you back from the brink?
So, please use this site to say whatever you need. You might want to share advice on how to deal with relationships; you might want to offer up a personal insight; you might simply want to tell us how much you love your mother or daughter or friend; and you might want to share words of wisdom for future generations of women.
yeah that's her nickname- mamma bear. a pretty rubbish one seeing as it was given to her by her three children who are of a much higher literacy rate than that: 19, 16 and 14. but still, it's what we call her and she accepts it. however much she moans.
now i'm the middle child. and no i'm not going to go on about how hard life is (even though it is!), but for any other middlers out there; you know what it's like. you always feel like your parents look past you a little bit, because everything they've been through with the first is special because it's new. and everything they've been through with the last is special because it's the final time. us, well we're neither.
but although i sometimes feel like that's happening, i always know that it isn't really. my mum tries her absolute hardest to treat all three of us the same. and i'm in totaly awe of how she does it.
i mean we're not the easiest three people to live with. we're messy, we argue, we nearly never do anything right. but she loves us anyway. she deserves a meddle.
and not even just for that. she deserves one for being her. on top of looking after us three, she runs herself ragged looking after her widowed mum, takes care of her father-in-law and ill brother, AS WELL AS suffering from multiple sclerosis.
i mean, i think about giving everything up everytime i get a spot (yes, ok over-dramatic teenager alert but still) so i have no idea how she manages to pull herself through everything.
but whatever it is that she does, i'd be lost if she stopped doing it. i couldn't imagine a life without my mum and the thought of ever losing her terrifies me.
so now, i am going to go downstairs, make her a cup of tea and tell her i love her. i know it's not much (remember people i'm only 16) but it's something.
Posted on 19.11.08 by
bodge92
I have read this book and it really got me to thinking about my mum and my children. I wondered waht letters I could write for my children if it was to happen to me, this was pretty hard as I am not very good with words. To my daughter it would prob say: To my darling one and only daughter you are the sun, moon and stars, you sparkle and light up my life I wish you health, wealth and eternal happiness. I wish for you all the things I have missed out on even though I am getting to do some of those things now. you are the most precious person I have ever had the joy of knowing and I belive you to beable to do anything you set your heart on doing. To of had you in my life and for you to have been mine is more than I could ever have wished for, ok so you can be a pain sometimes but the good far out weight the bad.
To my son would be slightly harder I think but maybe something like this: My sweet boy you are my favourite boy in the whole world and that you belong to me is a wonderful thing. You came out early and have been rushing to do everything you can as quick as you can. again like your sister you can be a pain but your a good pain! for you I also wish you health wealth and happiness and for you to do all you want to do and more. I love you both the same and different as you are not two of the same that would be scary. I,m gald you two are so different I makes the days with you both something to remember with smiles. try not to push or shuve each other for more than you need to, thats what life and sisters are for.
I think writing a diary/journal is a fab idea and may start to write one for when I do paa on even though I am but 29! Thank you for one of the best books I have had the joy to ever read! xxx
Posted on 19.11.08 by
loll69
When I was 17 my dad passed away and that moment was the start of a bond between my mum and I which will truly last our lifetime. We were close before but now we have a very special connection. My mum is strong, independent and the person I aspire to be. She is intelligent, beautiful, warm and caring and I love her more than words can say. I always ask myself at times of decision making "how would my mum deal with this?" or "what would mum say?" She is the person I go to when I need a hug or some sound advice. She is generous with her time and love and she is a very special person. I tell her all the time I love her but to write it down for her to see should make it more of a reality. Mum I love you, I don`t know what I would do without you and I want you to know I admire you and all you have been through. I am proud you are my mum and just wish we could spend more time together doing fun things, but work just gets in the way! I treasure the times we spend together and the memories shared. It is my intention to create more of those times and to ensure we grow old together and live life like dad would have wanted us to. You are my world and I love you. Dx
Posted on 19.11.08 by
mummys-girl
I remarried three years ago and had another son. My oldest, now 14, from my previous marriage is still with me. And my husbands four sons are still with us too, and they range in age from 15 to 19.
Realizing that the older boys were on the verge of leaving home and that the newest addition would end up being almost an only child we decided to have another baby.
Imagine our surprise, having six boys between us already, to find a daughter in our mists.
I was glad I was sitting down when she appeared.
So, here I am, wondering what to do with a girl, having written the books on boys.
Ironically, I feel there is something more special, unique and slightly ambivalent between her and I.
She is such a Daddy's girl, but the moments we share are more to me than I can write here.
Why?
I have started to explore my love for my daughter and how it differs to the love I have for my sons.
I would like very much for any other mother here to try and put into words how the bond with their daughter is more than their bond with their son.
Why is it special, unique, strong, so connected?
I am trying to create a photographic image that will start to put into words what is right now, only in my heart. Perhaps other peoples words will help me explore deeper what I am feeling. Maybe it will help unlock the why too.
Posted on 07.11.08 by
Barbara-L
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