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I have 2 equally but totally different daughters, in looks,views, relationships, needs - every way different, therefore I do love them differently and unconditionally. Going through cancer twice I desparately want to spend as much time as I can with them, talking, laughing, listening supporting them, but they have their own lives to live - away from me - they are independant grown women enjoying them selves. I feel blessed when they do want to share with me which is often I am happy to say. My only advice is to talk to, laugh with and love each other from the moment you 'meet', remember your daughter is not a carbon copy of you, she has her own views and personality - you helped her become who she is but she is 'herself' and she must find herself - and you love her for being who she is. I love you both my dearest, darling, beautiful, daughters, and always will.
Posted on 23.10.08 by
Anonymous
Cliche, I know, but my mum was my best friend. She was warm, funny, honest and had the most infectious smile!!
My mum was 48 when she passed away on the 15th of January 07, just 4 days after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It was all very sudden, there was no time to mentally prepare myself for the emotional rollercoaster I was about to ride on. We were told on the Friday evening that she had 2-4 months to live, by the saturday morning we were told it was a matter of days.
I held her hand as she slipped away from the world, letting her go was the hardest thing I've ever done.
The one thing that I am thankful for is that she didn't suffer. She was so brave and incredibly strong, she didn't cry in front of her family, and we in turn, were not allowed to cry at her bedside.
The thing that hurts me the most is that I didn't get to tell her all the things I wanted her to know. I wanted to thank her for always being there, for getting me through some very hard times, for picking up the peices when my world fell apart around me. Most of all I wanted to tell her what an amazing person she was. I'll never get to do that now, but I am sure she knew how much I loved her.
Learning to cope with my grief has been hard, I have to take each day as it comes but I know the pain of losing my mum will never go away and I'll never stop missing her.
Posted on 23.10.08 by
Victoria1
After years of painfully heartbreaking IVF, my husband and I decided to Adopt. It took lots of time and emotion filling out forms and going through our past but finally we made it and bought home our beautiful 6 month old daughter. Having our so longed for baby in our arms took away all those years of pain and made everything so worthwhile. Just before our daughters 2nd birthday we were contacted, with the news that there was now a birth sibling to our baby, another beautiful girl. We were delighted and made all the steps to bring her home to be with us. At long last at 3 months old she joined our family, we are now a very content family of four and I love every minute I spend with my 2 precious girls, I love them more than if I had conceived them, which maybe a hard concept for people to understand, but one which I hope my girls will understand as they get older.
I tell them every day how much I love them and how much they were, and still are wanted. Although we talk about their story, I want them to always know that we chose them because they are so special and we wanted them in our lives so very much, without doubt they are the best thing that has ever happened to us and I look forward to watching them grow and sharing special times.
I tell them all this so often, but when they get older and problems arise, I hope they can read this and know that they came from my heart x
Posted on 23.10.08 by
lisar1chards
I am blessed with 3 gorgeous girls. The oldest is 7 and the twins are 5 in a month! Already I am saying "where has the time gone", and so I am trying to make the most of every moment, you never know how long you have.
I lost my mum 6 weeks after my first daughter was born, and the repercutions are impacting me, and how I want to be with my girls. My sisters, who are both younger than me, were 27 and 20 when Mum died, and both believe that the other one was Mum's favourite. Neither of them get on, and I am stuck in the middle.
I want my daughters to know that I love them all to bits. They mean the world to me, and for all different reasons. My oldest, because she is the guinea pig! She is my first and I am so proud of everything she does. She is kind and thoughtful (when she wants to be). She has so many charcteristics that are from me which means I probably try to push her to overcome her insecurities, although it will probably come with age. I know that I need her to learn her own lessons, but it breaks my heart sometimes, as I know all too well how she is feeling.
My twins are identical, but so different in personality, and again I love them both equally. One is more independent, but still needs her cuddles, and makes us laugh with her posing and amateur dramatics, but at the same time can be painfully shy with strangers. She can be stroppy and so frustrating with her bloody mindedness, but again, that is her personality, and she is very like her dad!
The other twin needs cuddles and loves all the time. She is less independent, but more confident to speak up in a group and loves the sound of her own voice. The frustration with her is that she is the youngest ( by a mere 7 mins) and seems to play that part very well.
In many ways I want to wrap them up and never be hurt by the world, but I am open and honest with every question that they have (apart from Father Christmas and the tooth fairy!!)
They know I love them wherever I am.
Posted on 23.10.08 by
tracey3girls
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